The Next Stage

Change is not fun.

Even if it’s good change, it still leaves a little hollow feeling in the pit of your stomach.

That’s how I’ve been feeling this week.  Not unhappy or even nervous, just a little off.

Why, you ask?  What’s going on?

Hubby and I had a “state-of-the-union” discussion and decided that it was time for me to seek employment outside of the home.

It’s been twelve years since I wrote a resume…it needed a lot of updating.

With one kid heading out-of-state to go to college, and the other working and socializing so much that she’s gone more than she’s home, our family’s needs are changing.  And with a 21-year-old house that needs re-roofing and siding, it’s time for Stay-at-Home-Mom to make way for Working-Mom.

Don’t get me wrong…my first and primary job will always be Wife and Homemaker.  Trouble is, those jobs don’t pay very well…at least not in the type of currency we need to fix the house, pay for dental work, replace the stove, repair or replace the van…

You catch my drift.

I have to admit, after completing my resume, even I was a little impressed with the wide range of skills and abilities I have to offer.  I’m not bragging or anything, it’s just that, when you’ve been at home with your kids for the last 8 years, you start to forget that you can do anything else.  When you’re not getting quarterly reviews, cost of living wage increases, promotions, or bonuses, it’s easy to lose sight of how valuable your job really is, and how skilled, intelligent, and  capable you really are.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, all you stay-at-home moms out there, you home-schooling moms, those of you who have been blessed to be able to stay home to nurture and grow your budding family…you have one of the most important jobs on Earth.  Don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise.  The experience you gain in being chief cook and bottle washer, household manager, superintendent of schools, head teacher,  buying specialist, product analyst, child welfare officer, assistant CEO,  dog catcher, public relations director, head nurse,  chauffeur, life coach, morale officer, executive assistant, activities director, sanitation officer, diplomat…that  experience is beyond compare and invaluable.

“Stay-at-home” does not equal “unskilled.”  Never forget it, hang in there when it gets hard…it’s SO worth it!

O.K., so this post was supposed to be about the changes this family is making, but it turned out to be a motivational pep-talk instead…I’m glad it did.  And I don’t think I’m going to go back and edit it to be a more cohesive piece of writing…this blog is about the real me talking to the real you about real stuff.  So here it is, un-edited.

13 thoughts on “The Next Stage

  1. Malaika, that really is a huge change, one I went through myself when my kids were in high school. There’s no doubt that you have much to offer your future employer. I wish you the best in finding a great position and making this transition.

  2. Best wishes on your job search!

  3. I hope some wise employer is smart enough to put you on the payroll

  4. I hope you find a great job – and that you look forward to going to work each day.

  5. So true — It can be difficult to get the world to appreciate this stay at home experience but keep your confidence and you will do it.

  6. Great post! I wish you many blessings and a quick job offer! Will you keep doing Etsy?

  7. That is a huge step and often a difficult transition!! I’ll be cheering you on though and praying for God’s direction and that perfect job! 🙂

  8. Sweetheart, we will add finding exactly the perfect job to our prayers for you and your family. I totally understand how “weird” you must be feeling right now but I know that the Lord has you in His arms and will lead you to where He wants you to go in your job hunting. Sending tons and tons of love, hugs, kisses, and prayers all the way from California to Maine. Mom aka Mommy

  9. It’s funny how time goes by and we look back to see that things have changed and we need to change to meet the new times. Your post is a real inspiration and example of flexibility to meet the need. I know several women in our church who are doing just the same thing you are because their children are going to college and are out on their own. God bless you in this new venture!

  10. Blessings for your new season. Niki x

  11. Wow! Big changes indeed! Could you share with us what you might be looking for in terms of employment? Hours/type of work? Boy, how cool would it be to work in an artsy arena? Where you could get paid to do something you are passionate about? What about teaching some sewing/craft adult education classes where people can take home finished projects? You are super talented, have a great personality and a hard worker, Malaika. Anyone would be lucky to have you work with them!

    ~ Caren Smith, Owner &

    • Thanks, Caren!
      I’m actually looking for a bank teller job close to home…good hours, not too high stress, plus I’ve had previous experience, so I know I’ll like it. 🙂 We’ll see what comes along. I’ve got a couple of resumes out already. I’ll be sure to keep everyone posted.

      By the way, hope you’re having a fabulous summer!

  12. Hey, give me a call when you’re around, and I might have a few ideas for you!

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